She was ambitious, and fiery and persistent. She was idealistic, passionate and determinedly optimistic. She was me. And then I lost her. I didn’t even really know how it had happened, and I don’t think I even noticed at the time. Life had gotten in the way, as it tends to do. I assumed she’d … Continue reading
‘You won’t love me if I tell you the truth about me’.
‘I can’t love you if you don’t.’
I can’t remember the first lie I ever told. I can’t remember how I learned it, or the exact moment the idea came into my head to choose to construct a little fiction instead of telling the truth. I’m certain I knew I was about to get into trouble for something I’d done, and that punishment was one I wanted to avoid at all costs. Continue reading
Have you ever noticed how often it’s the people who declare unfaltering honesty who have the most practice telling half-truths?
And how the people who deliberately pick at the faults of others to shame them are the same people who haven’t yet learned to accept their own shortcomings? Continue reading
I have been cleaning out my home office lately. This is my fifth attempt and it was going okay until I unearthed some old notebooks that I had put in a ‘to look at later and then possibly discard’ pile. Some were from high-school, a couple were from my university days and one was from … Continue reading
You can find a multitude of reasons why you’re not enough. Stop looking for them. They aren’t ever going to bring you closer to where you want to be, they’re only going to hold you back. What is enough anyway? Will you be enough when you can finally afford your dream home, get that big promotion, or … Continue reading
Do you remember when you were a child, you couldn’t help but be yourself?
You might have been excitable, curious, trusting, and openly loving – uninhibited by the burdens of the world.
But along the way, things happened that impacted your sense of self, and how you interacted with those around you.
People laughed at your ideas… Continue reading
Fear (n) An unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.
That’s the dictionary definition of fear according to Oxford Dictionaries. I know because I looked it up and I looked it up because I was having a really hard time trying to explain what it was.
Fear: It conjures up different associations for all of us. For some people… Continue reading
That which doesn’t kill you makes you stronger – Friedrich Nietzsche
It’s one of those well-worn ‘sayings’ that we use when times are tough. We offer it as comfort, as a gesture of compassion, and sometimes because we don’t know what else to say.
We say it instead of ‘Don’t worry’,
or ‘Stop being upset’,… Continue reading
In the quiet hours – the moments when the world seems to slow to a halt – I see my life stretch out all around me Continue reading
Substance 